I signed up for the site and was “off the waitlist” in one or two days out of 38,000 people. I find it hard to believe that thousands of people are waiting to get on the site. Seems more like a marketing tactic to get you to buy a membership so not sure if I’m buying it. When you first get on the site, you are assigned a “dating concierge” (aka a bot claiming to have gone to an Ivy League school) who gives you dating tips to be more successful on the site. I will say the site is full of very attractive, professional men but it’s not very diverse and predominantly white. As a non paying member you are shown 3 prospects a day (and not always new ones) and can only correspond with other members on the site you match with. Unless you pay for a membership you don’t have access to many perks on the site and are essentially just waiting around for someone to match with you. You also can’t see any “likes” from other members unless you pay so again, you’re just hoping you match with one of your daily prospects. The price of the memberships start as “low” as $100 for ONE WEEK. I understand the concept of paying more to have access to better quality people but I agree with a lot of others who found the pricing to be outlandish. I’ve also noticed A LOT of the same men who are on the site are also on hinge as well which is a way cheaper alternative for the “same access.”

While it was fun to be handpicked as elite enough to enter this little online social club, I’m not a fan of its exclusionary nature. Being able to filter by ethnicity is strange for an app that claims, & I quote: “the league … prioritizes users who value intelligence and are looking for a serious relationship that goes deeper than physical attraction.” I believe you should absolutely be with someone you’re attracted too. However, this feature perpetuates harmful racial stigmata. You’re either demonized or fetishized by your physical appearance as a person of color. It’s extremely uncomfortable. I also believe the exclusionary nature limits my personal engagement. You’re allowed to see only 5 users a day, which means there’s a low like /match rate. Their competition allows me to have hundreds of likes a day that match my educational and professional requirements. Meaning, there’s not much of an incentive to remain on the app. I’m attempting to be patient. I’m giving it 1 more day, but I’m not impressed as of yet. Update: I didn’t even last another day despite my attempt. It’s definitely not for me. I thought I’d like it since I don’t do hook up culture because of my religion & I have academic/ professional requirements for a potential partner. But I put up those boundaries every where I go and don’t need to rely on this app for that. Just wasn’t worth the waiting line and staying daily for just 5 ppl.

Worst app I’ve ever used and it was bad even when I was paying $300/month for membership. Despite my settings I was being sent matches much younger than me all the time and as far as Texas, mind you I’m from NYC! I had to change my DOB 3 times to get the matches right! Turns out others have done the same too. The profiles I get, they don’t get my profile even eventually, because matches are very rare and I swipe right most of the time. I look like a model, so I know my looks aren’t the issue for lack of matches and I’m still young. On top of everything you have to pay if you want to message someone. There’s nothing exclusive about this app. Profiles are telegraphic style. Don’t get me started about the interest “groups”. Despite my settings I never get notifications when people post and people there just say hi. There are no events and basically it’s just an endless chat with people saying hi. Nobody responds to nobody either, there’s no way to respond to a member’s comment. It all goes in the dead group chat. There is no community. This app is a huge disappointment and very poorly made. Even when I was paying $300/month it was still bad. Needless to say I canceled my membership. I’m using it because the basic features are free but have been contemplating to delete my profile and stop wasting my time.